Just Another Article about Donald Trump…

I remember when I was a child. I went to a Catholic School, and every Sunday me and my family would be sitting in church listening to the Priest talk about things like “Loving your neighbor as yourself”… and “Treat others as you would have them treat you.” You know… the basics of being a decent human being.
 
 
This was something that was just expected of me when I was a child. My parents told me that I should be kind to others. My parents told me that I should never say mean things to another person because it could hurt their feelings. My parents told me to always be polite to elders. They did not approve of bad words, and often told me that if I can’t say something nice… don’t say anything at all. 
 
 
I remember these things as being a standard of how to go out into the world and how to socialize with other people. It was just the way we were taught to be.
 
 
I ask you reader… do you remember many of these lessons as a child? Did your parents tell you to be kind? Did you go to church on Sundays and hear the messages of loving your neighbors?? I ask you reader do you remember??
 
 
I myself am a very sensitive person. As well as being sensitive, I also have a fiery temper! It’s a strange mix… but it is who I am!! Being sensitive can be hard at times. But it’s the sensitivity that helps me to be able to empathize with another human being. It helps me to understand that other people are having experiences that are not at all things I may understand… but I can still listen, and open my heart to their experiences.
 
 
For the first time in a very long time, I have been jarred to my core! Lately I have felt like my heart is being squeezed watching all of the things taking place in my country. The place that I grew up in where I was taught about Freedom, and Hope, and acceptance above all else! I do not understand what is happening. 
 
 
All politics aside… the man that is standing up and trying to gain control of the amazing country that I grew up in… this man is cruel. He is unkind to his core! As a fellow human being… he is a bully! I am not talking about taxes, and medical plans, and what political party to stand for. I am talking about the person. His true nature! His core values as a human being residing on this planet along with 7 billion other human beings. 
 
 
I ask you reader… would you teach your children to treat others as this man has treated others? I ask you reader…  would you allow your children to speak the way this man has spoken?? I ask you reader… if YOU were the target, for instance say this man did not like the place you choose to worship, or the bible you choose to read… would you feel the same if he was saying that he wanted to ban all Christians… or all Catholics? 
 
 
My heart is broken. I truly for the first time have felt like I no longer have faith in human kind. The hate that is in our country right now is palpable. You can feel it in the air. 
 
 
Above all else… we are the human race! We are all on this planet together… no where to go! This is it! Did you ask to be here? Did you choose this? 
 
 
I have not always been kind in my life, but those times are the times that have made me want to be better. It makes me feel better to be kind. It makes me feel good to make others smile. 
 
 
You can call me a pussy, you can call me whatever you want to call me… but for me… at night when I lay my head down, I know I have tried to do my best. To be as kind as I could. 
 
 
I am not a religious person anymore. My own experiences led me in another direction… but if you are a religious person, I ask you… how will you stand before the God you believe will judge you on judgement day, and be able to say that hurting other human beings was okay? 
 
 
Yesterday, I read a blog that was written by one of the greatest writers of all time. This describes perfectly how I feel to my core! As I read this, tears streamed down my face. What has happened to my country? To my people? Where has the love and kindness gone? My heart is broken… 
Please Read This~
http://www.renegademothering.com/2016/03/02/nevertrump/
 
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Dear Fat People…

My 15-year-old daughter asked me to come watch a video today! It was a video that a teenage boy from her school shared on his Facebook page. The video is of a “comedian” pretty much making fun of fat people for six straight minutes. The girl in this video calls it “comedy!” 
 
 
 
After watching the disturbing video, I sat and talked to my 15-year-old daughter who is currently 105 pounds and still thinks she is fat! She thinks she is not good enough and never will be. I don’t know why. I have always told her she is perfect and beautiful just the way she is, but sometimes it’s not enough! On top of the ridiculous standards of society saying that we have to be skinny, blonde and perfect, we have people like this horrible woman who actually chooses to spend her time on this planet spewing ignorance and hate!!! 
 
 
 
I try very hard to keep the communication open with my daughters, but there are some 15-year-old girls out there that have no one. Every single person in their life will tell them they are not thin enough or pretty enough or good enough just as they are. Some girl out there will be told she needs to lose weight if she wants to be pretty! And then we have this asshole come along and put out a video just reassuring them that they are in fact never going to be lovable or good enough.
 
 
Knowing that my 15-year-old daughter watched this, I wonder to myself how many other 15 year olds watched this. And I wonder if this “comedian” even knows, or cares about how many people who will watch her video, and her words will be the last thing they ever hear!! How many people will watch her video and go to the bathroom and throw up as much as they can, or stuff their face full of more diet pills. How many people will cry themselves to sleep, or feel even more unlovable and alone than they did before those words ever hit their ears!
 
 
I wonder if she feels bad at all. If she even cares! 
 
 
 
My guess… She thought to herself how can I get people to look at me? I want to be noticed and nobody is noticing so what can I do?? What can I do to become famous!! Oh I know… I’ll tear apart an entire group of humans that I don’t know anything about, and maybe someone will look at me!
 
 
 
And it worked!!! WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK!!!!
 
 
 
 
Well… good for you Nicole Arbour, you got what you wanted. You needed  people to see you and give you attention. I do wonder though, if anyone overdoses on diet pills tonight, or jumps straight off a bridge because of your words, I wonder if it will even bother you!
 
 
The fact is we all would like to believe that some stupid words that an ignorant woman posts on a video wouldn’t have that much effect on anybody. But the truth is, there are many people in this world that do not have a solid self-esteem foundation where they were told their entire life how awesome they are. Some people have completely the opposite. Maybe they were told every day that they suck and will never be good at anything and it takes everything for them to just get up and face another day. How ignorant of this woman to think that her words are nothing more than comedy, and that no one could possibly be affected by them! 
 
 
 
If you want to see some people who will make you feel happy, make you feel loved, and make you feel like you are perfect just as you are. Check out some of these amazing people who are spreading love and acceptance on the internet instead of vitriol and hate just to get some likes.
 
 
 
Veronica Pooh Nash –  I recently came across Veronica Pooh Nash! This woman is so unbelievably amazing. I have never in all my life felt such genuine love come across a video as when I watch this beautiful woman. Every word she speaks comes from love. I would rather have my 15-year-old daughter watch any video from Veronica Pooh Nash and listen to her say “I love you and there is nothing you can do about it”, then ever have my daughter watch another thing that comes from someone filled with such ignorance and hate! 
 
 
 
Meghan Tonjes – Always making videos telling people to love themselves just as they are! A real ground-breaker in the body positive movement!
 
 
The Militant Baker – Another body positive role model. Everything she puts out is telling people to LOVE themselves and letting them know that they are okay and deserving of love exactly as they are!
 
 
Hannah Hart – I have watched Hannah Hart for years! I adore her! In every video she posts, they are filled with love and positivity. She has the most amazing happy presence, and you can feel the happiness through the screen!
 
 
Joshua Evans – He vlogs everyday, and at the end of every single video he posts, he signs off with “Be nice to people!”… What a great message to spread around… 
 
 
Colleen Ballinger – She also vlogs and is the creator of Miranda sings! I have watched her vlogs and she is one of the kindest people.
 
Jenna Marbles – If you haven’t heard about Jenna Marbles you might be living under a rock. She is hilarious and a true comedian. She has made videos for years and never once needed to call people ugly, or fat just to get someone to watch them.
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Laci Green – I LOVE Laci Green videos. I have my daughter watch them just because her message is so powerful and amazing for young girls. You have to check her out!
 
 
If you watch a video or read an article, and after you are done you feel terrible and really bad inside, then something is wrong! You wouldn’t surround yourself with people who make you feel terrible and awful. We call those kinds of people Draining soul suckers for a reason!! Nobody needs that in their life! Surround yourself with people who make you feel happy. Being happy and loving is contagious! And just remember.. you really are perfect just as you are! That is the TRUTH!!!!
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This video response to the Dear fat People video is the best one I have seen so far! Grace Helbig.. another amazing person spreading happiness wherever she can!
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What If… the world was Different?

What If??
 
 
Have you ever asked yourself what if the world was a different place? What if everything that you think and do now was completely turned upside down and backwards? How differently would you be treated by other people? How would you be treated by your family? How would you treat others?  I have asked myself this many times. I have wondered if the world was different, if people thought different thoughts than they do now, what would magazine articles look like, and what would movies and television shows portray?
 
 
If the world was different, how would YOU be treated differently than you are treated now?
 
 
What If… 
 
 
WHAT IF girls wanted to be Fat? They wanted it more than anything. Every magazine cover and every Top Model was FAT! Girls never went on diets, and only stepped on scales wishing and hoping that the number would go UP! Every single before and after picture was exactly reversed from every before and after picture you see in this world. Every magazine had an article that read “How to go from FIT to FAT! follow these easy steps!” How would you be viewed in a world like that? How would people judge you and treat you in the world that the epitome of beauty is fatness?
 
 
 
WHAT IF being Gay was normal? What if every family had two dads, or two moms and anyone with a mom and dad is considered weird. As a child growing up, you are told that being straight is a sin!! You have feelings for the opposite gender of you, but nobody understands this. You are a girl, and you fall in love with a boy and you get beat up for it, and thrown out of your family. ONLY boys for boys and girls for girls!! What kind of weirdo falls in love with the opposite gender?!  Every street you walk on you only see girls holding hands with girls, and boys kissing boys. You are afraid for anyone to know that you have fallen madly in love with someone who is the opposite gender. So you hide it. You have lived your entire life seeing only images of happy family’s; being two moms or two dads. NEVER one boy and one girl together. Your attraction and love for the opposite gender has made you feel wrong and shameful. Would you hide in a closet if the world was like that?
 
 
 
WHAT IF men breast-fed babies? The mother still carried the baby in her belly, and pushed it out of her Vagina, and immediately the father started producing milk from his nipples. Right after the baby was born, they hand it over to the father so he can feed the baby. The choice to bottle feed or breast feed is still optional, but they really push the daddies to nipple feed the babies. Nipple is best they say!! When you walked through the store, you see a father feeding his child with his nipples. He prefers to be shirtless because shirts are cumbersome while trying to feed the baby.  Would you still want him to cover? Would it be okay for him to walk around shirtless while feeding his baby?
 
 
 
 
WHAT IF most men were taught to be careful about what they wear. They were told from the time they were young that girls only think about one thing, and all they will ever want from you is sex!! A woman’s Vagina is thought of as her brain because her decisions are totally led by her Vagina!! Men had to be careful about being around a group of girls especially if they are drinking. Men had to worry about walking around alone at night because there could be a strange woman lurking around waiting to rape him. If the man got himself raped, he had to prove that it wasn’t his fault. Especially if he had been drinking at a party. I mean… he was wearing that very revealing tank top. Would you think he was asking for it?
 
 
 
WHAT IF looks meant nothing! Every person looked exactly the same. Every single person was an exact duplicate of each other. There are no different colors of hair or eyes or skin. There are no different cultures or different beliefs. There are 7 billion people on the same planet and ALL 7 billion people look exactly like each other. And every baby born looks exactly the same as every person already here.  It’s all the same. Just a big planet full of humans that are all exact duplicates of each other. No differences at all. Would people hate other people? Would there be racism or sexism? Would there be wars? 
 
 
 
WHAT IF the term “grow a Vagina” was the ultimate term for STRENGTH??!! When you said to someone “stop being a boy and GROW A VAGINA” it meant toughen up. Or “it’s time to ovary up, and BE STRONG!!” If someone was crying and showing weakness they were called a little dick with balls!! What if calling someone manly meant they were weak, and calling them girly meant they were tough! Would you want to be girly then??
 
 
 
Would the world be a better place for YOU if things were different? Would you see things differently and get offended differently than you do now? Would you have different beliefs, and different morals? Would you accept other people differently than you do in this world? Would you love differently than you do now?
 
 
 
In what world would there be no more hate?
 
 
 
What type of world would it take for everybody to love everybody? 
 
 
 
I wonder if this world could become a better world, empty of hatred and full of love… What if…
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The Suicide of a 13 year old Girl!~

Close your eyes for a minute! Think back to when you were 13 years old. Do you remember? Do you remember what it felt like? How unsure you felt? How much you wanted to fit in and be liked by others at the same time of trying to figure out just where you belonged? Do you remember feeling like the little things that happened in your life were ENORMOUS things and not being able to put those things into perspective?
 
 
This story has knocked me down. It has ripped my heart-strings into shreds! 
 
 
 
The story of the 13-year-old girl is a sad one. Her last few days on Earth were riddled with bullying from school, from home, from the world. Why wasn’t anybody on her side? What drove her to take that final jump? If you know the story, you know about her “punishment” from her father. The punishment was that her long, beautiful hair was cut, and a video was taken of her while her father initially mocked her. The girl didn’t say much in the video. She was as silent as the dead pieces of hair that still laid on the floor in front of her. Days after this incident, she jumped off a bridge.
 
 
 
It’s not my place to say that the video caused her suicide, or that there wasn’t any other problems in her life, but I do have one thing to say… Being the target of a shaming video by somebody who is supposed to love you and help you probably didn’t help. As a parent, I watch as these shaming videos become more and more popular among parents. It seems the trend is to humiliate your children if they make a mistake, in hopes that the internet will make you “mom of the year” or “best father ever”. 
 
 
 
Are these titles worth it? Is the online popularity worth tearing down the one person you are supposed to be lifting up? I’m not perfect, and I’ve made mistakes. But what is wrong with people who want to raise their children with fear and bullying? Every other person in this world will tear down your child, and target them, and make them feel worthless. The one place that a child should feel loved and accepted is in their own home. There is no other person on this Earth that will guide and love your child the way you do. So wouldn’t you want to be the one person in the world to guide them and protect them? The girl’s father made sure she had nowhere to go, no place to call safe. Teenagers are so isolated as it is, because they are going through a difficult time of growing from child to grown up. It’s a hard transition, for parent and child alike. But what he did only isolated her even more. Every adult on Earth has been a teenager, has mouthed off to their parents, and has made mistakes. Eventually, you grow out of it. Her father could have related to her just by remembering what it was like to be thirteen, what it was like to feel awkward and upset.
 
 
 
The problem is that children and teenagers aren’t adults, therefore, they aren’t seen as human. They are seen as less than human, something that has no important thoughts or feelings. But that is just not true! We are raising human beings. They deserve respect too. They deserve to be listened to, and treated as a living, breathing being. I believe whole-heartedly that if you want your child to learn kindness, be kind to them. If you want your child to learn respect, be respectful to them. Children, especially young children, look to their parents for guidance. If you just beat the crap out of them, you are not giving them guidance. Guidance is showing them how to be, by being it yourself. It’s that simple. What do you think shaming them and beating them is going to accomplish? That fear that you are instilling in them will destroy who they are, destroy their spirit. If we want better people in this world, we have to show them what better people are like. And if all else fails, talk to your child. Believe or not, it is possible to communicate to your child without a so-called “rod.” The human language allows you to tell them why something is wrong or dangerous. And, if you show them the respect of listening to them, they will show you the same respect.
 
 
 
This world is obsessed with obedience without question. Every parent that shames their child wants their child to be seen and not heard, and wants their child to obey, obey, obey. Well, I disagree. I want my children to ask questions. I want my children to think for themselves. I hope they never stop asking questions, because once they stop asking, they stop thinking. I refuse to break their spirit just to turn them into little, obedient members of society that keep their head down and do as they’re told. My children will not be conformists. They will question things and follow their own path.
 
 
 
In any case, what I’m trying to say is that if we want to raise decent human beings that know how to respect and love and think, shouldn’t we be the example? One of the saddest parts of the thirteen year old girl’s story is that a week before this whole thing, she posted lyrics online about having no friends… Where was her family to help her? To support her? To guide her through this? Maybe, if her family was there for her and cared for her, her outcome would have been different. Maybe, even without friends, the love of her family would have been enough to get her through such tough times, but instead she got a family who bullied her and shamed her. I would love to see a world where love and respect of each other prevails, but that can’t happen the way things are now. Our children are the future of this world. Do we want the future to be filled with violence and anger? Or do we want a future filled with love and understanding? We have the choice. Choose.
 
 
 
**Suicide affects everyone! Family members, friends, and all the people left behind to suffer the heartache of never knowing why. My dad committed suicide 15 years ago. The one question that still goes through my mind is why?! Feeling lost and alone has nothing to do with being around people. It’s something that is inside. Something you can’t see but you feel very, very deeply inside of your soul!! 
Here is some information on suicide:
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
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The day my son broke my Heart!~

Let me start this off by stating that what I am writing about is a very unpopular opinion. The truth is, we all have an opinion. This just happens to be mine. It does not make it right or wrong, it is just the way I see it. You can take it or leave it. My opinion will change nothing. 
 
Now a days, I see so many articles and Facebook posts about how kids today are whiny little bitches! I see it being said all the time. Many folks hate the idea of everyone getting a participation trophy when they play on a team because they feel that it is raising a bunch of pussies. I can tell you that when I was a child, and I was picked as the last kid a lot, it was painful. I took that in and it added greatly to my already lack of self esteem that I carried around on a daily basis. I was a child that came from a home where my parents didn’t build us up all the time and tell us we were awesome.  So every time I was reminded of this outside of my home, it just reassured me that I was in fact NOT AWESOME!! Growing up with that in your head on the daily, takes a long time to try and reverse those thoughts. 
 
 
 
So the other day my son came up to me and told me about something that broke my heart.  At his school they have this incentive program where kids that follow the rules and do as they are suppose to, they can gain golden tickets. They turn in their golden tickets at the end of the week, and every week they have a drawing and pick a winner from the bin. The more golden tickets you have , the better chance you have of winning. I think it is a great thing that they do for the kids. My son came up to me and we had this conversation about it:
 
 
The Boy – “You know how I have been trying to win the golden ticket thing since I was in kindergarten?”
 
 
Me – “Yes.”
 
 
The Boy – “Well… it has been three years and I have tried really hard to win. I think I just have really bad luck that follows me because in three years I have never won. Sometimes I will try extra hard to get tickets and put them in, but I never win no matter what I do. But I am completely okay with it. I am just not going to do it anymore. I have bad luck so I will probably never win it anyway.”
 
 
*At this point he could see I was feeling kind of bad about what he was saying and so he said this. 
 
 
The Boy – “Don’t be upset about it. I am completely okay with it. It’s not a big deal. I just have bad luck in my life and that is how it is.”
 
 
Now listen… as a mom, I have that mama bear quality when one of my children are hurt or upset where I want to make it all better. It is instinctively inside of me to want to fix things for them. I am not going to apologize for that!! When someone hurts my child, I become a crazy lady!! And yes, I wanted to go down to the school, and make them pick his name!!! But I also know that what he is experiencing is life. Just simply life! The thing that breaks my heart is I witnessed the very moment when my son lost that magical feeling of hope, and just became okay with it.  The moment of when he lost his belief in the fact that he can actually do anything. The truth is… life is not easy. And the truth is, not all of us can accomplish everything. We DO NOT always win everything, and truthfully, we will not always be able to do everything it is that we want to do. I am 42 years old and still waiting to take that dream trip to Paris! 
 
 
 
As a mom, I have always told my kids they can be anything and do anything. The world is their playground to do as they please. And even though I have always said that to my kids, I saw my 10 year old lose that hope simply because of his own experiences.
 
 
 
I will still tell my children that they can accomplish everything. And I will still tell my children they are wonderful! So many people disagree with this. They believe that you should never make your children feel special at all because the world will not see them as special or wonderful. I agree with that… except that the world and life will show my children well enough on it’s own that they are not special or wonderful. No one in this world will treat them like they are amazing. Life will knock them around the same way it does all of us. And they will have to learn to overcome obstacles all on their own. But like hell it is going to start with me!! I want to be the ONE place that they know is not going to fail them! I want to be the ONE place they can go and always know that I will see them as wonderful no matter what.
 
 
 
When I think back to my childhood, even if I had parents that had told me I was great all the time, I know for certain that everything I experienced in my life, from heartbreak, to not getting the job, to being the last picked, are all the things that showed me exactly how life is. The hard knocks of life! 
I just want my kids to know that even when life is knocking them around all over the place… the one soft place to rest for a bit will always be with me. I am not a perfect parent. I fully admit that I am in no way perfect at this parenting gig! The way I really feel is, I love my kids and I want them to succeed in all things. The reality is, they won’t succeed in all things. They will learn that totally and completely without the help of me. So yes, I will still tell my children that they are wonderful, and I will still tell them that they can accomplish anything. What they experience in this life will add to making them exactly what they become. I want them to always think fondly of their time with me though. I want them to never question the fact that I always have believed that they can be and do anything. 
 
 
 
Don’t twist my words. I say no to my kids all the time. That is because I am not in a situation where I can give them everything they want at all times. I am not talking about buying your kids a bunch of shit they don’t need. I am talking about building up their self esteem. I am talking about building them up as Human Beings. Reality is what it is! Nothing you say to your kids will change the reality of life. You can tell them they suck or tell them they are great, it will not change what life throws at them.  But it may change how they end up handling it.
 
 
 
 
All I know is that by telling my children that I think they are awesome, it is doing nothing but letting them know that I, their mom, think that they are awesome! It is not making them pussies that can’t handle life. It is just reassuring them that even if the world is shitty and hard sometimes, and things will not always be easy… no matter what, I will always think they are awesome! 
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Who are YOU?? And what do YOU stand for??

You know what, ..unless you have personally experienced racism, .you do not get to say it doesn’t exist! Unless you have personally experienced sexism, you do not get to say it doesn’t exist! Unless you have personally experienced being raped and bullied you do not get to say it didn’t happen!
 
 
 
 
It’s the same thing as if you tell someone that they are being an asshole and they say “No I’m not!” well it’s really not up to them is it?!
 
 
 
 
America was built on the backs of slaves! THEY built this country. This is a factual part of American history! We all learn about this in school. It happened!! These people fought for the right just to be seen as human. And now all these years later the residual effect of what this country practiced early on is still a very real part of our country today. So many voices are screaming and yelling to be heard! If an entire culture of people say that racism exists…than it does!! That’s it!!
 
 
 
 
You are not allowed to take anyone’s own personal experience away from them by spewing your uneducated opinion. And it is an uneducated opinion if you personally have not walked that road or experienced that experience for yourself. If someone tells you that they were bullied, who are you to say it didn’t happen or it wasn’t real?? 
 
 
 
 
Every single one of us are experiencing this life in a different way. The thing is, people get so wrapped up in their own heads and their own experiences that they forget everyone else is having their very own experience as well, which has NOTHING to do with you. 
 
 
 
It’s like everyone holds on to their beliefs with all their might! I like to call them “Believies!” We all have our believies and we go around telling everyone all about our believies and what we think and what is “real” to us. The thing is, none of your believies are real to anyone else but YOU!!! 
 
 
 
 
All of the believies that each of us have are no more than the sum of our experiences. That is the reason we all have such very different ideas about the way things are or should be. It’s all just a huge collection of thoughts that are directly stemmed from your experience on this planet.
 
 
 
 
The problem is when a person gets so wrapped up and stuck in their own head, they do not realize that outside of themselves are people with a different set of eyes and a different set of thoughts. 
 
 
 
 
Even folks that grow up in the very same house with the very same parents will have completely  different ideas about how things were. 
 
 
 
 
Right now is a hard time in our country. There is rioting and people screaming to be heard! They want to be heard! WE ALL Want to be heard. 
 
 
 
 
When people are screaming that injustice has occurred, who has the right to deny it?? 
 
 
 
 
If your child came to you and told you that someone made them feel uncomfortable and said really bad things to them, would you tell them they were wrong, or that it wasn’t true? Would you tell them it didn’t happen?
 
 
 
 
When do we stop denying and start listening to the voices that are screaming??  The voices that are hurting and crying for someone to hear them. If it was someone you love screaming and begging to be heard…would YOU listen??
 
 
 
 
My true believie above all else is that the only way TO PEACE is THROUGH PEACE!! …for all of us…
 
 
THIS HERE was written by one of my favorite people ever. She always seems to put into words exactly what is in my heart! 
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The Secret to Health and Beauty is…

Let’s talk about health! Every where we turn people are always spewing this and that about what is healthy and what isn’t. It has actually become a trend to use the word health to judge other people.  My favorite is when completely uneducated fools that found some article on the internet (much like this one I am writing)  use it as a way to spew some ignorant foolish thing that is in no way backed by facts,  it is all just opinions. (This here is my opinion, you can take it or leave it! Your choice)
 
 
 
So many people like to think they know the facts about what health really is. The truth is…. the “facts” about health have changed over the years and even over centuries. It changes all the time. Where the problem comes in is that someone will read some article about gluten or dairy, and now they think they are a friggin expert about health.  What these people seem to forget is that everyone is different. Just because something worked for you… DOES NOT mean it is the answer for everyone! 
 
 
 
 
As of recently… there is this gorgeous model who was signed to a contract. Tess Munster! She is beautiful. The fact that she wears a size 22 and was signed on to a contract as a model has become controversy!!  I mean….This is controversy?? Because of the size of clothes she wears? What the hell am I missing?
 
 
 
 
I recently read an article about her, .and the top comment said something like this -“Well, how can someone of her size promote health?” This question baffles me. Mostly because not one single fucking person on this planet can tell the health of another person just by looking at them. If you think you know how healthy someone is by merely looking at them, you may be a bigger fool than you even realize. And since when is the modeling industry even worried about being healthy? Do people actually look at runway models, with bones poking out every which way, and think that they are healthy? How many models pass out from malnutrition and exhaustion each year? Whether it’s a size 2 or 22, the modeling industry isn’t there to promote health, and it never was. 
 
 
 
 
Let’s start off with the fact that no one’s health is the business of another person’s anyway. Someone left an ignorant comment that said… “My only concern is for her heart!” Oh really?? You are concerned for her heart? You…a perfect stranger! You are not her doctor…or her mother and yet you are concerned for her heart! I CALL BULLSHIT! People that spew this heightened sanctimonious attitude are the ones that are most full of bullshit! There is NO WAY any of these people commenting on a post on the internet have actual “caring” for a perfect strangers health! So STOP spewing this garbage because you make yourself look like an idiot!
 
 
 
 
It is utterly ridiculous to think you know the health of a person by the way they look.  Thin people have cancer. Fat people have cancer. Thin people have diabetes! Fat people have diabetes! Thin people do drugs! Fat people do drugs! Even babies are born with cancer. Many people walk around with debilitating pain, and many times you would never have any idea.
 
 
 
Can we also talk about how the idea of health changes all the time anyway. It is all literally a standard set by a society of people. It does NOT mean it is fact! I just watched this awesome video that I will share down below about the idea of beauty through the ages. This also has a lot to do with the idea of health. Somehow the lines of beauty and health have become so intertwined in our society. Remember, …beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
 
 
 
 
There was a time in our country, and the rest of the world, when being a thin person was considered the height of unhealthy. Mostly because it just meant that you had no money to buy food, and so you were unhealthy. Being plump meant being fed, which meant a better chance of surviving illness and surviving childbirth. The more plump overweight look was the top idea of premium health! Even on other parts of our world right now….there are people starving to death. These people DO NOT view thinness as a health standard! Mostly because thinness is a sign of starvation. The idea of health to them is someone who eats.
 
 
 
 
The health of an individual person is NOT something you can determine by their size, their hair color, their skin color, or the way they dress!
 
 
 
 
This guy here – Jim Fixx – is the guy who created jogging back in the 70’s. It wasn’t as popular as it is today, but it caught on and became a popular way to exercise. This wonderful man died from a heart attack when he was 52,… while he was jogging! Because I am not his doctor, ..I have no idea why this happened. But it happens.  People that exercise have heart attacks….people that are thin have heart attacks, ….people that are fat have heart attacks. 
 
 
 
Just remember, …if you are using the “health” card to judge other people, just know that you are completely full of shit! What you are doing is buying into the societal standard of bullshit! There is a societal standard for many things. And thinking you know the health of a person by looking at them is one of them!!  And using the health card to judge is just you wanting to judge for the sake of judging, or to make yourself feel better.
 
 
 
SO STOP!!!
 
 
 
I know for me that when I am feeling good, I am happy. My health is directly related to how I am feeling.  I am one of those people that has fluctuated with weight over the years. Having four kids, I have gone up and down and all around in the weight department. I have also been someone that has bought into the society bull shit and torn myself apart because I would look in the mirror and not find anything I Like. I have berated myself for not looking a certain way, and my daughters have seen me do it! (Which makes me sick to my stomach.)  I have been bone thin, and I was no where near healthy. I was STARVING!!! Trying to fit into an idea of perfection. The funny part about it is I had people say to me…”You look so healthy!” Uh NO! If they only knew that as they were sitting there telling me how healthy I was, that I could have actually passed out from starvation at any second!!! I had gone 7 straight days without any food one time trying to get down to a certain size.  I was starving myself and I was NOT healthy. I was also not happy. I just wanted to fucking eat something.  
 
 
 
 
My wish is that Happiness would be what everyone wishes for another person. That happiness is the New standard for health and beauty!!  I can get behind this. Happiness for everyone. Fat, thin, bald, or blue…. whatever the fuck a person chooses to be! Happiness is what folks should be striving for. Not thinness, or fitting into any ideas of society. Just finding happiness! When comments say things like “As long as they have found happiness then that is all that matters!” will be a happy day for everyone!
 
 
What if the secret to beauty and health is Happiness??…
 
 
 
And listen okay… I like gluten! So back the fuck off!!!!
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