STOP Fucking Hitting your Kids!!!

If you don’t like cussing or ranting,…or offensive things….DO NOT READ THIS POST!!! I am fully aware that I am going to piss people off, and I don’t give a fuck!! We all have opinions. You have yours and I have mine. Well, here’s mine. Take it or leave it! I am tired of always trying to be PC and not offend anyone. The internet is full of assholes all spewing what their opinions are.  Well, here I am, just another asshole spewing my opinion. WARNING: This post is completely offensive and full of bad words, and full of me standing on a soap box!
 
 
 
STOP fucking hitting your kids!!!!! Seriously….what the hell is wrong with some people! It has become a stupid trend to shame your kid and post it on social media. If you want to go viral…either video tape yourself beating the shit out of your kid…or shame them mercilessly and post it for all to see! BOOM  you will go viral!! Am I the only one that sees something wrong here?!
 
 
 
And what the fuck is up with you people that are so damn proud of showing off your discipline techniques. It’s like the more you hit and shame your kid…the prouder you are of yourself.
 
 
 
I am so sick of seeing people say I was hit growing up and I’m okay. YOU ARE NOT OKAY!!!! ESPECIALLY if you think it is okay to continue on and do that with your kid. Can we address a few points here please!
 
 
To the people that say spanking is not hitting – Are you a fucking moron! OF COURSE it is. Spanking is methodically hitting in one spot. It is to cause PAIN! It is to hurt! Hitting and spanking ARE the same thing!
 
 
 
To the people that say “I was raised with spanking and I’m fine!” – NO…no you are not fine.  If you can’t even see beyond that type of way to raise a child…YOU are not fine.
 
 
 
To the people that say kids that aren’t spanked end up in prison – This one has got to be one of the most ignorant statements I have ever heard in my damn life!!! Why don’t you take a little visit to a prison and ask those folks how they were raised. I guarantee 100% of them will say their parents either beat the shit out of them,….or abandoned them! Zero percent will say…oh my parents talked to me. They taught me by showing kindness and love to me! Half those fuckers are in prison because they beat the shit out of a kid who couldn’t defend themselves.
 
 
 
To the people that say you have to spank your kid to “TEACH” them – Okay….since when does hitting teach anything other than bullying?? 
Here’s a concept for you…How about BE kind to them…so they learn how to be kind. How about BE loving to them…so they learn how to love. How about BE respectful to them….so they learn how to respect. How about show them you are a kind decent person and earn their respect that way. Instead of the bullshit fake respect you get from FEAR!!!! 
 
 
 
 
To the people that say – “The world is going to shit because nobody spanks their kid anymore!”…..let me enlighten you. People have been spanking and hitting their kids since the beginning of time! There was a time when schools could hit your kid. It has ALWAYS been a thing. And the world is SHIT!! When has it ever not been this way? So you are saying the world was better before! Better when exactly? History is filled with violence….the bible is filled with violence. There has never been a time in our world that there has been peace. NEVER!!! There is always fighting, and violence and turmoil. ALWAYS! There is always bullying and people hurting other people.  How about this….Let’s try something different and see what we get. Let’s break the chain..and try something new and improved! 
 
 
 
If you think you are loving your child by hitting them, maybe you don’t have a clear idea of the true meaning of love. Love is NOT painful! Love does NOT hurt! DO NOT even try to say that loving someone is hurting them. That is the biggest load of bullshit I have ever heard! Love is Love! You feel it inside of you. A kindness, …or a loving touch. When you say Love is painful…Then you are most definitely teaching your child that pain = love. And now here they go out into a world looking for pain, because pain to them = LOVE!!!
 
 
 
Oh and my favorite is…”I’m not my kids friend…I’m the parent!”…Oh…good for you. I still can’t figure out why when someone says this statement,.. the fucking thing goes viral! WHY do people LOVE to shame their kids?? I don’t get it!
 
 
 
I am proud of the fact that my kids see me as their friend.  My 14 year old daughter came to me before she went to anyone else when she was faced with a decision about peer pressure. She came to me and told me she trusted ME more than she trusted anyone else. We talked through her problem, and I was so thankful I was able to be a part of it with her. She respected and trusted me enough to come to me, and be honest with me. Don’t get it twisted…I am not saying that you should let a child do whatever the hell they want….or walk all over you, but to keep yourself open to them as a person they feel comfortable coming to.
 
 
 
 
Children are HUMAN BEINGS!!! They are the same as you!!! They deserve as much respect as you do. And they WILL learn it if you show them it. Children learn by watching you.  That is it. The only thing you are teaching your child when you hit them is, make sure and listen to people that hit you!! And don’t get caught!! You are either making them good liars….or making them afraid of you. If that is the end result you want…good job! 
 
 
 
I don’t give a FUCK if you disagree with me! I am SO fucking sick of seeing people beating or shaming their kid and being so proud of it! Hey….Let’s make better people…BY being better!!!!!
 
 
 
And don’t forget…You are going to be old some day,  and they will be the ones that have to take care of you. Wouldn’t it be nice if they actually liked you when that happens!
 
 
 
So chances are if you even made it this far, you either agree with me…or hate my guts! It doesn’t really matter to me! My only hope is that maybe one person will actually stop and think about it for a second. Maybe talk to your kid! Listen okay…if you have more patience with your dog, and would never go off hitting on your dog….then why would you do that to your very own crotch fruit!? 
 
 
 
I am in no way saying that kids are easy! Without a doubt, children are assholes!!…So teach them by BEING what you want them to be! 
I saw this on the website Humans Of New York and it is AMAZING!~
“Never laid a hand on her. And that was huge for me. Because it was always the first thing my dad did.”
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Let’s break the chain like this amazing, wonderful dad!
You could always listen to this radio show that Louis C.K was on. He says it perfectly!!
 
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11 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Fearless Leader
    Jan 12, 2015 @ 12:29:15

    Please, Vag, next time let it all out. This holding back your true feelings is not healthy for you. 😀

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    • Vagina
      Jan 12, 2015 @ 12:57:11

      😉 Oh Fearless Leader….you know me!! I can only hold back for so long!! Thanks for always hanging around! Have I told you lately that you are THE BOMB!!!…

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  2. Brittany Ouimette
    Jan 12, 2015 @ 12:40:28

    What a great article! I am a step Mother of a 7 year old girl and a bio Mother of a one year old boy. My step daughter does not have contact with her bio Mother any longer, but when she did her Mother always spanked her and she would tell us that she was so hard to handle etc etc it was the only thing she knew that worked, amazingly when she acted out here we did a few min time out and life went on. I think her “out of control behaviors” had a lot to do with being spanked, and the anger that came along with being spanked.

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  3. Joy Christi
    Jan 12, 2015 @ 14:58:25

    “The world has always been shit”
    There never have been more true words written in history.
    I always crack up when people talk about violence like it’s a new concept, or video games are responsible or new TV shows. Uh, have you ever read a history book? The Effing bible? People are monsters.
    You’re right about trying something new. How much worse could it be?

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    • Vagina
      Jan 12, 2015 @ 15:23:10

      EXACTLY!!! You get me… When people say the world is so much worse now than it used to be….they are speaking straight from ignorance! There are still places on this Earth that don’t have widely used video games and television and some of those places are the most violent. It is absolutely ridiculous to blame t.v. and music for the violence of an individual person. Some people are so self involved that they can not see past their own noses.

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  4. darthleia
    Jan 12, 2015 @ 15:23:16

    I was watching a show last night, and one of the characters was talking about his childhood. He said that as he got older, he knew that he had to become the man he wished his father was. Your post made me think of it. I think that is a powerful statement, and should go for many people whose parents never gave them the time of day to actually listen or care for them. Those who were hit as kids should grow up, and break the chain. They should become the parents that they wished their parents were. This post is powerfully written, and has a great message. Thank you for posting it!

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  5. Angie Holcomb
    Jan 12, 2015 @ 15:35:18

    I’m going to be honest I spanked my daughter for about 1 1/2 & nows she 4 & in the time she was 3 I finally realized how guilty I felt for it so I stopped. Now in the past 6 months that I haven’t layed an aggressive hand on her I have not only showed her more love & patience, I myself haves learned more patience. I even went as far as making a behavior chart for home & the punishments are time out, no more tablet or TV, & early bedtime. I think moving her clothespin sinks into her more than spankings ever did. I don’t want to be the mother I had so I’m learning day by day. Hopefully I don’t get any trolls for my past mistakes…

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    • Vagina
      Jan 12, 2015 @ 15:38:21

      So much respect for you right now!! The fact that you realized it didn’t feel right to you, ..so you found a better way is exactly why you are breaking the chain!! Thank you so much for your comment!!

      Reply

      • Angie Holcomb
        Jan 12, 2015 @ 20:41:07

        You are very welcome & I’m slightly giddy (ok a lot giddy) that you not only did you comment back but you respect me. 🙂

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