“Times change and so must I. We all change when you think about it. We’re all different people all through our lives. And that’s ok, that’s good, as long as you keep moving, as long as you remember all the people that you used to be.” -The Eleventh Doctor in ‘The Time of the Doctor’
I am just going to say exaclty what I need to say! Most of my life, I have spent NOT saying how I feel. Letting the ideas of other people sway me, even when I felt it wasn’t right for me. About 5 years ago, something happened in my life. I don’t even know how to describe it other than I just exploded. I literally could not take another moment of letting other people take advantage of me. I am going to go all Doctor Who here, and say it was like I was a statue, and something inside me just cracked and I busted out with all the force I had. This is it. This is who I am. I can not even think of going back to the person I used to be. Every so often I start to slip back, but then I realize… I DO NOT have to take anything from anybody ever!! No one does. Nobody should have to take shit from others just because they are family, or close friends, or whatever the reason may be.
The problem I keep getting tripped up in, is that I don’t want to hurt anybody. I just want to be a nice person. Well…. nice on the internet is a non existent thing. It’s very similar to being on the road in a car, and screaming at the idiot who cut you off that you wish he would die in a fiery pit of hell. I mean… technically that is a harsh wish to place on someone… but it’s a lot easier to scream that at someone when there is a car between the two of you. Same thing with the internet. There is this lovely screen that you have protecting you from actually seeing the pain or sadness you may have caused another person. So it’s easy!! I have been at this blogging gig for close to a year now, and if I have realized anything…. it’s that the internet is really a different world of it’s own. We all pretty much know that…. the world wide web has connected you to people that in real life you probably would have never met, or possibly even stood in the same room with because they are on the other side of the world. I think there is so much good in that. Of course with the good always comes the negative.
Recently I had some stuff go down, and came extremely close to walking away from this. I mean… it’s no big deal. I am not writing to save people’s lives here. I am not a talented writer of great literature. But there are some folks that enjoy what I put out there. It also brings me joy to make them laugh or make someone’s day. That is why I even do it. If my style of writing isn’t someone’s cup of tea… so be it. That is what makes this place so great. There are so many different kinds of people, and different ways of doing things that everyone can find something that they are into.
I believe with every fiber of my being that TRUE FREEDOM comes with acceptance. That’s it!! Acceptance. If you really, truly want to be free… then practice acceptance. Unless you stop trying to change others, and merely just accept them as they are…. then you will truly never be free yourself. You will be trapped. Not only is it exhausting to spend your time and thoughts on what other people are or are not doing…. but you are completely missing what YOU are putting into this universe. How can you put great, amazing things out into this world, when every thought, or action is basically trying to change other people to see things YOUR way?
My plan for this year is to keep on keeping on. I will let my integrity guide me on the right decisions to make. I will always choose love before choosing hate! I choose love, respect, acceptance, and kindness. If people try and take advantage of my kindness…. or enjoy seeing how far they can go with me…. then I will for certain tell them to FUCK OFF!!!! So… my motto for 2014…. love and kindness, and if you still want to be an asshole to me….. then FUCK the fuck off!! 🙂 Because I am not a door mat to be walked on. I have put together some of my MOST favorite sayings ever. Actually as I recently felt sucker punched by a “friend” … my daughter put these together for me to cheer me up. It’s the ones in your life that stand by you, and when your heart is broken, they are still there. When you are crying so many tears and you can’t seem to stop… they grab the tissues and sit right beside you. Those are the ones you want close to you. Those are the ones that will still be there even on a bad day.
My wish for all of you amazing beautiful folks is that 2014 is YOUR most amazing year yet! Do all the things that you have been putting off, or waiting to do. Just do them! Wake up tomorrow and do it. BE AMAZING my friends! You have the ability and power to be unbelievably awesome in all things….. So do it!! Don’t let anyone change who you are! Just BE the BEST YOU that is in you to be. You were created and designed to be AMAZING! SO BE AMAZING!!! ❤
Because I am a true nerd at heart…. most of these came from Doctor Who! 😉
~ “Life depends on change and renewal” -The Second Doctor
~ “Courage isn’t a matter of not being frightened, you know. It’s being afraid and doing what you have to do anyway.” -The Third Doctor
~ “You know the very powerful and the very stupid have one thing in common. They don’t alter their views to fit facts. They alter the facts to fit their views. Which can be uncomfortable….if YOU happen to be one of the facts that “needs” altering.” -The Fourth Doctor
~ ” Do you know in nine hundred years of time and space I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t important before.” -The Eleventh Doctor
~ “Your ideas are too narrow and crippled. I AM a citizen of the UNIVERSE!!” -The First Doctor
~ “I am and always will be the optimist. The hoper of far-flung hopes and the dreamer of improbable dreams.” -The Eleventh Doctor
~ “Letting it get to you. You know what that’s called? BEING ALIVE… Best thing there is…being alive right now is all that counts.” -The Eleventh Doctor
~ “You lot, you spend all your time thinking about dying, like you’re gonna get killed by eggs, or beef, or global warming or asteroids, but you never take time to imagine the impossible…..like maybe you survive.” -The Ninth Doctor
~ “Everybody knows that everybody dies…but not everyday, and not today! Some days are special, some days are so so blessed. some days…nobody dies at all.” -River Song
~ Everything will be okay! Everything will work out Fantastically if you walk your own unique path toward your dreams. You will be led to your own unique talent to the world! -Unknown
~ “BE BRAVE!” – The Eleventh Doctor
With stuff going on, I didn’t have it in me to make a video at this time. So Buster offered to do it for me. I was like….yeah…go ahead doggie….you make a video! So here is Buster’s Video…